Success Is Not An Accident

by Tommy Newberry

Bill of Responsibilities
1. You have the responsibility to ask only for opportunity.
2. You have the responsibility to seek and find your true place in life.
3. You have the responsibility to write down compelling goals for your life.
4. You have the responsibility to invest the minutes and hours of your life wisely.
5. You have the responsibility to visualise the attainment of your goals in rich, vivid details.
6. You have the responsibility to talk yourself into success.
7. You have the responsibility to choose a high-energy lifestyle.
8. You have the responsibility to develop yourself and every area of your life to its maximum.
9. You have the responsibility to provide more values and contribution if you desire more rewards.
10. You have the responsibility to persist until you succeed.

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Lesson 1 - Choose Success
Goal-Setting

1. Controllable : Make your definition within your control, not based on outside circumstances or other people.
   
2. Measurable : Make your definition quantifiable so that you can hold yourself accountable.
   
3. Perpetual : Formulate your definition so that you can satisfy your definition on a daily basis.
   
4. Personal : Choose your own definition, not a borrowed one.
   
5. Principal-Based : Establish your definition on absolute truths, not on subjective, timely or situational values.
   

Assignment -

• Write out your personal definitions of success and failure.
  
• Write down things in your life you can control. And another list of those you can't.
  
• Write out 20 of your positive characteristics.
  
• Write out 20 of your past accomplishments.
  
• Write out 20 of your greatest blessings.
  
• Write out 20 blessings you expect to be grateful for 9 years from now.
  
• Describe your ideal day in detail.

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Lesson 2 - Choose Who You Want to Become
The Personal Mission Statement Worksheet

1. What are three qualities you would most like to see associated with your reputation?
   
2. What three activities do you find most enjoyable?
   
3. What three activities are most important to you?
   
4. What three things would you like to change about your life if you had no restrictions or limitations?
   
5. What six things do you want in life more than anything else?
   
6. Who are the three people you admire most, and why?
   
7. Of the people you admire most, which one quality do they all have in common?
   
8. What would you be willing to die for if you had to?
   
9. Why do you go to work?
   
10. What are your four most important roles in life (friend, salesperson, entrepreneur, student, uncle, husband, mother etc.) ?
    
11. What qualities would you like to be known for in each of these roles?
    
12. What evidence would prove you have those qualities?
    
13. What would you like people to remember about you when you die?

The Personal Statement Outline

1. In 25 words or less, you statement of purpose : My mission is to ...
   
2. Role A
   - Qualities / Description in brief
   - Evidence, Actions, Responsibilities in brief
   
3. Role B
   - Qualities / Description in brief
   - Evidence, Actions, Responsibilities in brief
   
4. Role C
   - Qualities / Description in brief
   - Evidence, Actions, Responsibilities in brief
   
5. Role D
   - Qualities / Description in brief
   - Evidence, Actions, Responsibilities in brief
   
6. Summary and Conclusion : Your personal philosophy of life and success

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Lesson 3 - Choose to Write Down Compelling Goals
Top 10 Reasons to Establish Written Goals for Your Life:

10. Written goals strengthen your character by promoting a long-term perspective.
9. Written goals allow you to lead your life as opposed to simply managing it.
8. Written goals provided internal, permanent, and consistent motivation.
7. Written goals help you stay focused -- to concentrate on what's most important.
6. Written goals enhance your decision-making ability.
5. Written goals simultaneously require and build self-confidence.
4. Written goals help you create the future in advance.
3. Written goals help you control changes -- to adjust your sails, to work with the wind, rather than against it.
2. Written goals heighten your awareness of opportunities that are consistent with your goals.
1. Written goals make YOU the person your want to become as a result.

--> They remind you of why you are doing what you're doing, why you're enduring hardship, why you're pushing yourself outside your comfort zone, and finally what you really want to become.

Why people don't set goals:

1. They have not accepted personal responsibility for their lives yet.
   
2. They fear criticism.
   
3. They don't know how.
   
4. They don't realise the importance of goals.
   
5. The Curse of Early Success.
   
6. They fear failure.
   
7. They fear success.
   

Effective Goals are:

• written
  
• stated in the present tense ( not future )
  
• positive ( eg. not "I will not be lazy" )
  
• consistent with your personal statement
  
• specific and measurable
  
• timebound ( to give yourself motivation and pressure )
  
• reasonable, yet challenging ( high, but attainable )
  
• planned thoroughly
  

The Goal Achievement Formula

Personal Mission Statement ( Who you want to become )

Long-Term Vision and Goals ( The 30-year ideal lifestyle )

3-year Goals ( The 3-year vision)

90-day Milestones

90-day Strategies

Weekly Master List

Daily "to-do's" | Daily Habits

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Lesson 4 - Choose to Invest Your Time Wisely

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Lesson 5 - Choose to Get Out of Your Own Way
7 Mental Principles

1. Cause and Effect
--- There is no luck.

2. Belief
--- Your beliefs produce life experiences, not the other way around.

3. Subconscious Activity
--- Your job is to convince the subconscious that the condition you desire already exists.

4. Substitution
--- Exert control over your thinking. Substitute

5. Mental Equivalency
Develop a clear mental picture of any goal you hope to achieve in advance.

6. Concentration
--- Focus on your positive experiences, blessings, goals, and all the people who love you, and you'll attract more.

7. Relaxation
--- Don't try too hard. Don't force things mentally -- your mind will freeze and stop working creatively.



Effective Self-talk using P.E.P.P.

> Positively Phrased

> Emotion Provoking

> Present Tense

> Personal


15 Practical Insights --

1. Always use the word "when" rather than "if" in situations where you are talking about something you want to happen.

2. Take control of your explanatory style, the way you interpret past events to yourself. Put a positive twist on things or "spin it" to your benefit, by looking back and reinterpreting any seemingly negative situation and mentally downplaying or minimizing its significance. This reduces the effect of the past on your future.

3. Watch out for media programming, the constant suggestive influence from radio, television, newspaper, magazine, and billboards. It's estimated that the average American is exposed to more than 1500 advertising messages a day. If you think like the masses think, you'll get what the masses get.

4. Never let anyone say anything to you or about you in your presence that you don't sincerely want to happen. Be alert whenever someone starts a sentence with "you" in daily conversations. Be especially careful about old friends who speak of you as the person you were, but no longer want to be.

5. In dealing with other people, particularly those you live or work with, never refer to someone or characterise someone in their presence as something you don't want them to be, or else you'll just be reinforcing their negative tendency to be that way. Omit things like "You're ALWAYS late!".

6. Whenever you catch yourself thinking something negative or self-defeating, stop in your tracks. Say "cancel", "next", "deflect" or anything which works for you if need be.

7. Be always doing what you say, you strengthen your character and literally program yourself to create the reality dictated by your words. Walk your talk. Talk you walk.

8. Refuse to claim things or stake possession to anything that you don't want in your lifestyle eg. my cold, my headache. Attach it to things like my prosperity, my perfect health etc.

9. No matter how common it may, refuse to get cornered into conversations involving skepticism, cynicism, doubt, worry or gossip. Self-talk is quite contagious. Only talk about yourself and things you want to happen.

10. Most people routinely say things to themselves r about themselves that they would never, ever say to a respected friend. Refuse to acknowledge or give air time to any thoughts that are in opposition to who you really want to be. Be a respecting and nourishing friend to yourself.

11. Leave the past in the past. If it becomes necessary to talk about a habit, tendency or quality that you'll rather not have, always talk about it as if it's long gone, as if it's history rather than an ongoing problem.

12. Choose the words of champions. Replace "I'll try to" to "I will". Replace "I didn't have time" with "I chose not to make time for it"

13. Watch out for others who transplant their past experiences to you, often lowering your expectations and, in effect, causing you to clinch up, preparing for the worst. Learn from others' experience, but always assume it's going to be a lot better for you.

14. Every cell in your body "listens in" to your thinking and interprets each thought as a command. If you want to know what your self-talk was like three years ago, just look at yourself and your life today. What the mind harbours, the body expresses.

15. Putting into practice even just a few suggestions from this lesson will generate a visible and measurable improvement in your life. Don't worry about mistakes, tripping up a little or falling back. Shrug it off and stay focused on doing better tomorrow. Remember, it is at the very moment that you think your self-talk is not working that you NEED to use it the most. Fill up every empty moment with a thought of the person you want to be.

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Lesson 6 - Choose Positive Visualisation

1. Relaxation - the relaxed state of mind increases concentration and focus.
   
2. Frequency - review, review, review!
   
3. Clarity - the more skilled you become at precisely duplicating in your head what you want to see in your life, the more rapidly your goals will appear.
   
4. Duration - Refuse to let fear, worry, distractions, or any other types of resistance cut short the length of each act of visualisation.
   
5. Emotion - Mentally celebrate in advance by pretending your goal has already been accomplished.
   
6. Perspective - 1st person? 2nd person? 3rd person?
   
7. Scripting - writing forces you to crystallize your thinking.
   

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Lesson 7 - Choose a High-Energy Lifestyle

1. Set a goal for how long you want to live
   
   
   
   • Write down everything you can do to help you live to at least age 80
     
   • Write down all the negative habits that you may be tempted to engage in that would hurt your chances of reaching 80
     
   • Take steps to eliminate those bad habits gradually
     
   • Begin by introducing the positive health habits to your life
     
   
   
2. Maintain a positive attitude
   
   
   
   • You become positive by deciding in advance that you will always choose the most resourceful response to any set of circumstances.
     
   
   
3. Control stress
   
   
   
   • We experience stress when we realise we are living far below our potential. Remember it is the way you think about something that makes it successful. Stress does not exist to the degree to which you allow it to.
     
   
   
4. Exercise intelligently
   
   
   
   • Improves sleep
     
   • Relieves stress
     
   • Burns fat
     
   • Suppresses appetite
     
   • Enhances attitude
     
   • Stabilises chemical balance
     
   • Fortifies immune system
     
   • Heightens self-esteem
     
   
   
5. Eat for energy
   
   
   
   • Plan your meals
     
   • Eat low-fat to very low-fat food
     
   • Eat frequently small meals and light snacks
     
   • Work in five or more servings of fresh fruit and vegetables
     
   • Limit the white poisons : sugar, salt, bleached flour
     
   • Drink lots of water
     
   • Supplement your diet with an all-natural, high-quality vitamin and mineral formula
     
   
   
6. Sleep for success
   
   
   
   • Arise at the same time every day
     
   • Eat for deep sleep
     
   • Reserve the bedroom for sleep (and .. )
     
   • Develop a calming bedtime routine
     
   • Make tomorrow's "to-do" list early
     
   • Hide the clock! (Why stress yourself that "it's late" etc?)
     
   • Set the thermostat
     
   
   
7. Take time for rejuvenation
   
   
   
   • Take frequent 5-minute stress breaks
     
   • Don't work for one day every week
     
   • Take a 4-day vacation every quarter
     
   • Take two weeks of vacation annually
     
   • Declutter your home, car, office - everywhere
     
   • Get a massage
     
   • Recultivate simple pleasures
     
   
   

Thought Stimulantors

Travel

Where would you like to travel?
What famous hotels would you like to stay in?
What famous restaurants would you like to stay in?
Where would you take an ideal 30-day vacation?
What is your favourite climate?
What cultures do you like to experience?
What different foods would you like to taste?


Toys
What luxuries would you want to be surrounded with?
What stores would you like to most to have a $5000 gift voucher?
What "toys" would you want to own?
What would you want to see in your wardrobe?


Finances
What would you like your net worth to be when you're 50? 60? 70? 80?
How much money would you like to donate to charity in your lifetime?
What types of investments would you like to be able to make?
How much money would you like to save for retirement?
How much money would you like to spend on vacations?


Home
Where would you like to have a second or third home?
Describe your ideal master suite.
What style of home do you like? What type of decor?
What other amenities would be part of your dream home?
How many children would you like to have?


Learning
What foreign languages would you like to learn?
What types of lessons would you like to take?
How many books do you plan to read in the next 50 years?
What books would you like to read?
What knowledge would you want to have?
Would you like to be known as wise?
What unique experiences would you like to have?
What skills would you want to master?


Health and Fitness
What changes would you like to see in your physical body?
What food give you the most energy?
What sort of diet would help you achieve more?
What minor discomforts etc would you like to be free from?
What are your favourite types of exercise?


Relationships
How would you like the most important people in your life to respond to you?
Describe your ideal mate.
How would you like your family to describe you?
What would be a dream getaway for you and your spouse?


Social
What important people would you like to meet?
What sort of new relationships would you like to develop?
How would you like to be remembered?
How would you like your reputation to change in the next 5 years?


Career
What impact do you want to make on your profession?
What other types of career opportunities would you like to explore?
would you like to go into business for yourself?
Would you rather be working for someone else?
How could you create an income source from your hobbies or talents?


Adventures
How many weeks of vacation would you like to have each year?
Would you like to have an annual month-long holiday?
Would you like to attend the opening of a Broadway show?
What mountains would you like to climb?
What great sites would you like to photograph?


Community
What impact do you want to have in your community?
What role do you want to play in local, state, national, or world politics?
Would you like to teach a Junior Achievement class?


Personal Comfort
What "good lick" would you like to experience?
What emotions would you like to experience more often? How often?
How often would you like tlo get a massage?
What would your ideal weekend be like?
Would you like to simplify your life?
What could you eliminate from your life that would give you more inner peace?
Would you like a full-time maid? Chef?


Spiritual
How active would you like to be in your church?
Would you like to read the Bible from cover to cover?
hat will have to happen for you to experience peace of mind?
How often would you like to meditate?
Would a daily devotion at a fixed time each day halp you grow spiritually?


Personal Development
What character traits would you like to develop?
Would you like to write a book?
What would you like to be remembered for the most?
What contribution or talent do you have that would serve others, ultimately reaping rewards for yourself?
What do you want to, be, have, or become?